recommendation to club membership
Is there a buffer anywhere here who is a member of Four Seasons Sun Club or any other local family-orientated sun club in Sussex, who knows me well enough to support my application for membership with a recommendation please?
I think you probably know the sun club that is off limits but I am still hopeful of somewhere local clean, family-orientated where I can settle in. I would be a guaranteed committed member as, being fully celibate and given the hedonist nature of many nudist places in the south, there is nowhere else suitable for me to go. My other application, Little Oaks, stumbled on a single-male waiting list with no more room. Beryl was however very understanding for which I am grateful. Yet, technically I do not fit the profile of the single male! I am not predatory; I am not interested!
I would be most grateful.
Thanx'n'Hugs,
Will
Perhaps 'Will' should have used the words 'PERCEIVED' before saying We Quote" "technically I do not fit the profile of the single male! I am not predatory".
I think most people will be aware of the FACT and FABLE relating to the the PERCEPTION with which some Single males are viewed.
'Will' please consider that you have had your hand slapped for missing the word 'Perceived' out. Sadly the idea that some S.M's are less than desirable as Club Members has being built up over the years and seems to be inbuilt into the the mind set of Membership Committees and in many other naturists.
Who was it that said 'I would not want to be a member of any club, that would want me as a member?
Was it Oscar Wilde? but then it was a 'Gentlemens Club in London and not a Naturist Club.
Our experiences of Clubs are a bit mixed, with members clubs it can depend of the Committee and whether they see themselves as 'Tin Gods' or just 'Mere Mortals' doing their best to ensure all members enjoy their Naturisum to the full; this without being regimented into 'Right and Wrong Thinkers'. We have even seen members with Lodges or Caravans on site look down their noses at those who can only attend as daytime members due to not having accomodation on site.
Soliel Club (Unlanded) seem to have the right idea on Club rules they have just ONE RULE it is 'Enjoy and let others enjoy'. Oh by the way, they accept S,M's
Well it couldn't have got any better could it?
Over 2 years of struggling to prevent other single males being fast-tracked past me drove me further afield.
To think that if any local club had accepted me, I would not have found my new Eden, the Naturist Foundation, because I would not have ventured that far. All the pain of over 2 years may perversely have been worth it.
I am not going to do a roll-call of the wonderful people there because there might be a capacity limit on message size. But it is the first time in my life I have forgotten, ever been allowed to forget, that I am different. Because I am just another guy at the club. You wouldn't believe what a wonderful feeling it is at last to be nobody.
But if I am proud of my difference, do I ironically no longer have anything to be proud of? Of course I do. I am irrevocably proud of the Naturist Foundation.
Hugz, Will
I know Groucho Marx said
'Please accept my resignation. I don't want to belong to any club that would accept me as a member'.
In my defence, all I would add as a single male, single due to my daughters mother dating some guy in the RAF while we were together, is that I am so glad she has decided to become a naturist. Despite her tender years, 9, she fully accepted me when I was at home in the nude and on the occasions her mum lets her stay-over, we go to club events as a naturist 'family'. Selfish I know, but there is no other way with some clubs.
If any membership secretary's are reading this, please bear in mind that some of us are not single by choice.
Males by themselves should have a 'Danger Warning' on their foreheads. We know that not all males are predatory, or even that they generally behave inappropriatly.
The difficult thing is that as there are so many of them - for different reasons, and because of the conduct of just some of them, they present an impression that Couples and Single females should be 'always on their guard'. We have the roving single males on our Official Beaches, there alone quite simply because clubs put up the barriers against them, and maybe because they do not have facilities at home to go nude. A public clothes optional beach is open to all, so can be the place for 'newbies' to test what it is like. It often has its quota of folks there for other reasons sometimes equipmented with Binoculars and Cameras.
We are lucky that we have facilities that are completely private and Naturist friendly at our home. We do have Singles here, both male and female, like some clubs we try to keep a balance of M/F just like we might have for a Dinner party. You would never have all males and just 1 lady as the hostess.
How many times do we hear that the a male does not have a 'Participating Partner' so he has to 'do it alone. How often do these people say they are 'Seeking Fun'. What did those with Non-Participating Partners do to turn 'her' or 'him' off the possibility of going public together.
Have done the 'Single Male' bit myself, Susan has done the 'Single Female', we know the problems both categories face. If we had a solution, we could (hopefully) sell it and make our fortunes
"technically I do not fit the profile of the single male! I am not predatory"
It seems you could be implying that single males are predatory.
Please be careful, you may offend people by putting such statements.