SHY ABOUT YOUR AGE?
Some have it, others haven't!
Looking at members profiles, some chose to disclose their age (perhaps as it was when they set up their profile) others leave it off. You might be reading a profile and it has no age on it, BUT then that person sounds interesting. They might even be in your general part of the country. Do you contact them? and discover that whilst you are not in your dotage, they are 30 years younger and not really a match for social activities.
Might it be an option for us all to declare our 'True Age' in our Profile, or even have broad age band groups like 20-30, 30-40, 40-50 or even over 65.
Lets have your thoughts please.
As Pat says, it is a persons perogative to disclose how old they are - even in general terms. We find that our circle of friends are generally in the age group of Plus or Minus TWENTY YEARS our own ages. However the core of our circle tend to aged 10 years either way
Above the 20 years band they tend to talk about their ailments and their latest Zimmer frame and below that 20 years their latest car. There are of course exceptions. Even some of the youngsters have social skills.
Of course if what we hear is correct, the membership of Naturist Clubs is getting older with fewer young people and familes joining them.
The upward trend of age joining clubs is not restricted to Naturist Clubs; our local Lions International Club, does not have a member aged under 65. They are trying to get members to join that are in their 30's or 40's with little success. Unless they get young members in the club will become a group of well intentioned 'Winklies'
I usualy describe myself as old, fat and ugly. That way, should I manage to meet up with another buffer, they have no nasty shocks. I find it best to be truthful with age for the same reason.
Age is not an issue on online forums or even meets.
I have talked to a few people for ITB and BN and age has never come into it, some are ok, some are boring, some are downright rude but none was age related.
In the "real world" age has never been an issue either, when I was 20 my drinking buddies were 25, 30, 42 and 54, I still see most of them from time to time (1 is no longer with us :O( ) and age is still not an issue.
Thanks for that Wezzzy. I suppose how we feel about ourselves is a complicated thing. I have always considered myself overweight. I was told as a youth that I was ugly and have believed it ever since (damn the girl - she was no oil painting either!), and as for the age thing. Well I am now 55 and my body is now beginning to tell me to slow down. The aches and pains get worse by the month, the wrinkles can no longer be hidden by creams and potions and the hair has gone south along with the man-boobs. My brain hasnt quite caught up with the fact that I cant do what I used to but at the same time it longs for a body of a 30 year old. They say naturists should be 'at one' with their bodies and age. Not this one. I want to be young fit and handsome - anyone got a magic wand?
I agree with Wezzzy though. In the most part, naturists are more accepting of everyone regardless of age, colour, colour, creed, sexuality and looks. Yes, you get the one that bores you as soon as they open their mouths (sorry about that folks) but you get that in every walk of life.
Maybe like me, getting to naturism proper,late in life, and I had more time and occassions when I could feel free to relax. I have been a naturist in my mind from a very very early age but carefuly shut it away (apart from the odd lapse) until I was able to 'come out'. Now I dont give a stuff and tell just about anyone that isnt bored rigid by my ramblings within the first couple of words. lol.
total agreement with pat, what has age got to do with what common interest we all have "naturism" so is that to say if someone wants to make friends with other naturist you can't ?.. oh your to young or no your past it ? i have friend's in there twenties to some in there seventies, never had a problem with it. be good buffer's
I often find that at 32yrs old i am the youngest by far on most nudist beaches i have been too (studland, eastney, calshot, one in north wales i forget the name of!.
I often wander whether i stick out like a sore thumb and sometimes wander if other people are thinking "what the bloody hell is he doing on our beach" as people do tend to stare at me a lot but i carry on regadrless because i love being naked!
Something that we should all remember is the One Rule that Soleil Club has 'Enjoy and let others Enjoy'
So NUDE_PAUL, if that is what you are doing, then get on with it regardless of what others think. Remember Naturist Beaches are 'Free Beaches' in that you can do what you want, provided you do not offend. Eventually you will be 'Old Enough' to be invited to join 'Their Gang' if you want to that is.
Remember you are unlikely to meet Dawn French on your beach with her sense of humour.
So, you think people are staring because you are so young? Well, I have the opposite feeling. I think people are looking at me thinking, 'how could someone that old and shape stand naked on the beach?'. The answer is, just get on with your own worries and life. I do - or at least try to. When you're old, fat and ugly like me, then you should start worrying. Meantime, enjoy.
Well, buffers, although I'm still 30-something in my head, in reality I'm 61 and there's nothing I can do about it - even if I wanted to! Could be that there are more nudists about who are 'more mature' in years simply because we have the time to go places. Maybe, too, we're far more at ease being nude in the company of others as 'body image' is less of an issue than it is for younger people - the 'Perfect 10' (or whatever the current fashion dictates for girls) and for the lads the 'Men's Health' mag front cover '6-pack gym-sculpted body'.
I'm sure that the glances/stares given to Nude_Paul were based on admiration (and a degree of envy, too!!) rather than resentment of him being on the beach - although in the past I have come across some nudists who have been very territorial about 'their' beach and, in particular, 'their' patch on the beach! But that happens with textiles, too, and not only on beaches.
A friendly smile in passing cost nothing to give no matter what age - nor does age matter when returning the smile. So let's keep smiling, buffers, because it could well brighten someone's day more than we will ever know - even if they're too stunned to smile back!
What has age to do with friendship or naturism?
Some people prefer not to reveal their age or birthday on their profile. That is their prerogative.
If you meet in a social setting then you meet those who enjoy that particular activity regardless of age anyway.
If you find someone, on the site, in your general part of the country are you not going to make contact just because you are older/younger/don't know? If you make a friendship then all well and good. Any social interaction comes later, again regardless of age.
Pat
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