WHY BOTHER?

Brian and Susan,

Thought I'd reply to your post, to say that the phenomenon isn't limited to naturists. Here's a good reply I found on another board (non-naturist) :-

"You will find that people are in various groupings. Those that are polite enough to send an instant response even if not interested; those who just chose to be rude and send nothing; those that don't know how to respond through the site; and those that are too scared to respond for some reason.

But don't lose any sleep over it, just think of it as their loss in not getting back to you."

Personally I know from time to time I do miss replying to people, mainly due to the number of messages, etc. but i do try to go through and reply to them at some point (normally within a couple of weeks) as some things take time to get an answer worked out etc.

But as the quotation says above, it's their loss at missing out on making new friends.

Here's to a nice warm bank holiday weekend

Will

This does not explain the requests to be on someone's Buddy List though.
Maybe someone finds there are other members within their locality and think to Buddy up would be good but I am at a loss really to understand a Buddy request from someone who has never bothered to contact me either in chat or by message or even met.
I have quite a list of Buddies but I have had contact in some way with all of them.
Pat
One Life - Live It

It also seems to happen on Yahoo messenger and MSN. Requests for friendship without previous contact or even a brief introduction. Also the persons username maybe different from their username on ITB, so no way of even looking at their profile for a clue of who they are. Every now and then we go through our list and delete those that we have not had contact with for a while, so please dont be offended if we delete you from our list, its just me prunning a long list of lost contacts.

I think we have been down this road before.
No one should be offended if they find they are deleted from a Buddy List. If contact is resumed it can always be re-established, but some members do, now and then, like to update their profiles and other bits.

Pat
One Life - Live It

Personaly speaking, I have a real problem with names and 'tags'. I have always suffered from not being able to remember names, as my other half will vouch. Having had a conversation with someone for about 20 minutes, I will be asked who it was I was talking to. I have no idea half the time.
So the problem of different sites and different names can be a little daunting for me. I tried keeping notes but decided this was a little like big brother and I felt guilty about it. So now and then, I prune my 'bits'. This often has the effect of someone getting in contact again, resulting in me having to ask who the hell they are again. Its one big cycle.
As for adding to someones buddy list, well, I am on the shy side. My parents taught me never to talk to people I have not been introduced to. This has stayed with me. I do not presume to know people that I have not been invited to know. Now and again, I will send an unsolicited welcome message to someone in my area. If there is nor response - fine. If I get a reply inviting further contact, then great.
Is this bordering on the edge of ultra shy? Its me. Its how I am and how I always will be.
There again - my parents taught me that chewing gum was a sin. They cant be right all the time. I still dont chew gum though!

we try to keep in touch with as many as we can
it is silly season here at moment as house laways full now of naturist friends on way down or way back from Cap dAdge so sorry if not in ITB asmuch as we used to be
Alex & Debs